The Happy and Prosperous Blog

Yesterday we looked at worry and how it could be reduced. I was reading back over that post today and I wondered if it sounded a bit trite. It certainly wasn’t intended to be that way. Changing one’s habitual ways of thinking can take time and a concerted effort. I know it’s not always easy and I didn’t want to imply that it was.OK, today’s topic is feeling good. Some of this was again inspired by the CDs by Richard Wilkins that I mentioned in the article called a Virtuous Spiral. Richard has written a number of excellent books about how we can change our lives for the better.

Feeling Good

There are lots of things we can do to make ourselves feel good. What makes you feel good ?

A bit like in yesterday’s post where I put worries into 2 categories, I’d like to put things that feel good into 2 categories

1. Things that make us feel good
2. Things that make us feel good about ourselves.

Eating a whole packet of chocolate biscuits might make you feel good, but does it make you feel good about yourself if it contributes to you going over the weight you want to be ?

Buying some new clothes might make you feel good, but does it make you feel good about yourself if it puts you into debt ?

Talking to a friend who is having difficulties in their life can make me feel good AND make me feel good about myself.

Addiction

The things that tend to make us feel good at the time, then later don’t make us feel good about ourselves, are like short term fixes. We eat the chocolate, it makes us feel good because it tastes nice, then afterwards we don’t feel good for giving in to temptation. So we feel bad. Then the temptation is to do something that will make us feel good. So we may doing something else which makes us feel good at the time, then afterwards, we feel bad. So we may go on, feeling good, feeling bad - up and down. It’s like addiction - we need another fix of the thing that makes us feel good.

This is not the case with the things that make us feel good about ourselves. These things tend to involve helping other people in some positive way. More of this type of action is good for us, good for others and good in a wider context too.

In terms of the Law of Attraction, then the more things you can do to help you to feel good about yourself, then the more things will come into your life that will have that effect. It magnifies. You will attract more positive experiences.

What can you do today to make you feel good about yourself ?

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Now there are not many people on this planet who would say that I don’t suppose. They are not likely to be consciously accept that they want to be poor but maybe unconsciously they believe something like that. Maybe they believe that they deserve to be poor, or that they don’t deserve to be rich. Why ?

Poverty Consciousness

Some people are born rich and some are born poor but that does not need to determine their future (although in many cases, it does).

A survey in America looked at people’s financial status over a 40 year period from when they started working until when they retired. This is what they discovered. In a group of 100 people,

• Only 1 will be wealthy
• 4 will be financially secure
• 5 will continue working, not because they want to but because they have to
• 36 will be dead
• 54 will be broke - dependent on Social Security, relatives, friends and even charity for a minimum standard of living.

So, if this is right, then only 5% of people are financially healthy by the time they reach retirement. I find that quite hard to believe and it is quite shocking if true.

What About You ?

Do you want to be in that top 5% ? What is your attitude towards money ? Do you think money is bad or that only callous, heartless people get rich ? What do you believe deep down ?

Money, in and of itself, is not bad. It’s what you do with money that is good or bad.

So, if you had money, what would you do with it ? Maybe that’s the stumbling block for some people - it’s the responsibility of deciding what to do with money. If you only have money enough to eat and have a roof over your head that there are no big decisions to be made about what to do with your money. But if you have money to provide food, clothing and shelter and money left over, what should you do with it ?

So many people do the lottery, hoping to win millions, but I would be surprised if any of them had a clear idea of what they would do with the millions if they won it.

An Exercise

Get a pen and paper and write down what you would do if you had a million pounds. Be realistic. Then, once you’ve done it, decide if each one of the items is good or bad. Good things would be ones that develop you, help others, provide for family and friends. Bad things would be ones that damage you, or damage others or damage the environment. Do you want to change anything on your list ?

Has this helped you change you mind about money ? Could you break out of that poverty consciousness and see the possibility of something more ? Could it be that you deserve to be rich ? Read this article about what being rich means.

I hope you caught the series of articles on The Science of Getting Rich that appeared on this blog recently. The first one was called You Deserve to be Rich. There was a lot to take in there so I’m going to post some more articles on different aspects of that programme as ideas occur to me.

What Goes Around, Comes Around

A little while ago, a friend of mine, Gavin, sent me a CD set by a guy called Richard Wilkins. Richard has written a number of excellent books about what he has learned from the challenges in his life and how we can apply those ideas to our lives. I’ve listened to the CDs (there are 6 of them in the set !) several times and, whilst listening to one again this morning in the car, it struck me how the messages in these CDs fit perfectly with the Science of Getting Rich.

It Starts With YOU

Richard talks about ‘What Goes Around, Comes Around’. Notice here that it is NOT ‘What comes around, goes around’ !! The order is important. I take this to mean that it starts with you (and me, of course !). What we give (metaphorically) will come back to us. The more we give, the more we are likely to get back.

Gratitude

So, the more grateful we are for what we have, the more we will have to be grateful for. The practice of gratitude is a central part of the Science of Getting Rich. The author is clear that it is beneficial to us to be grateful for what we have AND what is already coming to us. That takes a fair amount of faith. Can you do that ?

Giving Value For Money

Another way in which I interpret the phrase is in giving value for money. Whenever we spend money, we all want to get good value for money - it’s only natural. So if that is what we want to receive, that is what we need to give to others. What goes around, comes around. Wallace Wattles referred to this is his book, The Science of Getting Rich, when he spoke about giving people more in value than you take from them in money. So if you want more value, give more value.

Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone did that ? If everyone got a good deal ? Not only would we get good value, we would also feel good too ! A virtuous spiral moving upwards. It’s all part of the Law Of Attraction.

Let’s do it !! It starts with you (and me !)