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Mar 23 2008

Self-Esteeming - Creating Self-Esteem

Published by Roger at 8:40 pm under Law of Attraction, Personal Development

I’ve been thinking about self-esteem recently. We would all like to have high self-esteem, right ? This post explores what self-esteem means and suggests ways we can all go about raising our self-esteem.

What exactly is self-esteem ? Where does it come from ? Were we born with it ? Is it something we have or something we do ?

Esteem
Let’s start with the word Esteem. Here are some definitions I found

respect: regard highly; think much of;
admiration: a feeling of delighted approval and liking

Self-Esteem and Self-Esteeming

How do you treat someone you hold in esteem ? Think of someone. I imagine that you:

Listen to them
Respect them
Value their opinions
Like them

So, could you do these things to yourself ? Could you esteem yourself ?

If you feel like it you could write down the ways in which you esteem yourself and ways in which you don’t. How could you go about adding more to the ways in which you do esteem yourself ?

Self-Esteem Suggestions

One thing you might consider is spending more time with positive people and less time with the negative ones. I wrote a brief article about this a while ago where I referred to people as either Drains or Radiators. People who are drains take away your energy and can make you feel less than, if you let them. On the other hand, radiators give out energy to others and can boost your self-esteem.

Some Personal Self-Esteeming Tips
One of the things that I do which contributes to my positive self-esteem is that I talk to myself ! No, not out loud - just in my head. And I say encouraging things to myself and congratulate myself when things go well. ‘Nice one, Rog’, ‘Well done, Rog !’. Yes, these are things I say to myself. Does that sound weird, odd, arrogant ? Not to me and I think it helps.

The other thing that helps is that I say thank you to people who do things for me. It’s not a mechanical thank you - I mean it. I suspect the reason this helps my self-esteem is that I appreciate my life and the other people in it and how they contribute to my well-being. Somehow, I’ve created this life and attracted into it all these things - which is great - and I am grateful for what I have created.

Summary

So, to go back to some of the questions I asked earlier, I think self-esteem is something we gain by doing. It is the continual result of a on-going process. The more positive things we can do, the stronger and better our self-esteem will become. If doing the positive things becomes habitual, then our self-esteem is continually reinforced. This process has been called self-esteeming and it’s something we can do every day if we want to. Which is why the power to change is here in the present.

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8 Responses to “Self-Esteeming - Creating Self-Esteem”

# Andrea Hess | Empowered Soulon 25 Mar 2008 at 3:32 am

Nice article! I think one of the biggest hallmarks of excellent self-esteem is when we can admit that what we are doing isn’t working, that we aren’t getting the results that we desire.

We can develop better self-esteem by changing our attitude, our perspective, or our actions. Once we do this and realize that this in no way threatens our true identity, we can let go of the shrine we have built to the aspects of our “personality” we hold so dear and see ourselves as something greater than just the ego-mind. And as an added bonus, we can create something different that actually serves us.

Blessings,
Andrea

Andrea Hess | Empowered Soul’s last blog post..What is Negative Energy?
# Rogeron 26 Mar 2008 at 10:20 pm

Thanks Andrea. I read your comment yesterday and have been mulling it over since. I had not thought about this aspect of self-esteem but it seems to me that this is an excellent yardstick.

I was remembering that (in times past) when people asked me what I did, I would say I am a Project Manager. I wouldn’t say I do Project Management. It was as if my identity (I am) was tightly tied in with my job. At that time, I don’t know what I would have done if I had lost that job. Now, if someone asks me what I do, I say I work as a web designer and as a homeopath. I love doing them both but I am separate from them. Perhaps just changing these words can help us separate ourselves from our work and so see ourselves as something more - our true identity, as you so rightly say.

Thanks again for your comment - really made me think more deeply about self-esteem.
Roger
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# abbeyon 06 Apr 2008 at 6:28 am

I can be bounding through life with great self esteem & its something i do work on…but often, especially when tired my self esteem can take a wallop and it is often a slow process to rebuild it….but basically I believe that people can only effect our esteem if we let them and I try not to give anyone that power…good post it gave me pause for thought…x

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# Gamy Rachelon 18 Apr 2008 at 5:41 am

Hi Roger,

This is my first time to your blog. I like what I read.

I like how you coin the Drainer and Radiator. It is so true.

Another word for Drainer is also called Emotions Vampire

I would like to invite you to come visit me too.
http://www.mindthinksuccess.com

I will be back.

Blessings
Gamy

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